November 29, 2015 Malaysia

TRAVELING ABROAD WITH THE BOYFRIEND FOR THE FIRST TIME

For the lovely couples out there, isn't it amazing to plan your first international trip together?
Think about it––you’ll be riding a plane and seeing places you’ve always thought about going together. While traveling solo can be rewarding, a trip with someone whom you consider special creates a sweet remembrance. When I knew I'd be going to Kuala Lumpur last September, I tagged Jerrell along.

Sure, traveling could ramp up the pressure and tell you what you must know about your partner, but I don’t believe that pressure worsens the relationship. Going on a trip as a couple is not without its own challenges. Most of the time, it’s about knowing more and understanding.

From my own 7++ years on the road with Jerrell, it was only September this year when we flew out for our first international trip together. It was a short, 4-day trip, but there's pretty much to learn about him.

It’s fun being miserable together.
You’ll miss the bus. You’ll run to catch the monorail’s last trip at 12:00 midnight. You’ll get lost in some parts of the city trying to get help from everyone whom you can’t speak the language. You’ll both end up being tired, hungry, and irritated, and all of a sudden you both complain and blame each other about the dumbest things. All of these become so annoying at the time but it makes a good team exercise. You figure out how to solve those problems together when you have no choice. You calm down, talk thoroughly, and laugh at it later.

Two heads are always better than one.
Traveling lets you shoulder the wrath of planning, making decisions, and the day-to-day stuff, but having someone around to share the consequences makes everything easier. Lol. It’s awfully nice not to have to deal with the unpleasant aspect of being alone if you know you could pass on the job to someone else – someone who’s willing to check the railway map and timetable without throwing up, someone you feel safer with even if things go the wrong way, and someone who constantly warns you that you need to watch out on your expenses. What more if it’s about sharing experiences, stunning views, and funny stories?

It’s interesting to rediscover each other, all over again.
It’s nothing new that traveling will push us out of our comfort zones. It makes aspects of our personalities to surface – most of it we’re not even familiar with. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with Jerrell but I know traveling will always open new grounds to re-discovery for the both of us (well, while we're not married just yet). I’ve seen how he reacts to my choices, weird habits, and sudden change of plans, and how insanely grumpy he gets when I make it hard for him to wake me up early in the morning. We argue A LOT but we always make sure to talk things through and that makes everything okay.

Have you also traveled with your partner recently?
Any interesting discovery?


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