TRAVELING ABROAD WITH THE BOYFRIEND FOR THE FIRST TIME

Malaysia

For the lovely couples out there, isn't it amazing to plan your first international trip together?
Think about it––you’ll be going away and seeing places you’ve always thought about going together. While traveling solo can be rewarding, a trip with someone special creates a blissfully sweet remembrance. That’s why when I knew I’d be going to Kuala Lumpur last September, I tagged Jerrell along.

Sure, traveling could ramp up the pressure and tell you what you must know about the other person, but I don’t believe it could make or break the relationship. You could see it as a mini-test to see how you’d have to deal with when you’re together 24/7, but failing doesn’t mean it's breaking up. Going on a trip as a couple is not without its own challenges. Most of the time, it’s only about giving and taking.

From my own 7++ years on the road with Jerrell, it was only September this year when we flew out for our first international trip together. It was only a short, 4-day trip, but I there’s pretty much to learn about him.

1. It’s fun being miserable together.
You’ll miss the bus. You’ll run to catch the monorail’s last trip at 12:00 midnight. You’ll get lost in some parts of the city trying to get help from everyone whom you can’t speak the language. You’ll both end up being tired, hungry, and irritated, and all of a sudden you both complain about the stupidest things. All of these become so annoying at the time but nothing beats creating a better team exercise. You’ll know you have to solve those problems together. You’ll calm down, talk thoroughly, and find better ways to deal with all the crazy frustrations.

2. Two heads are always better than one.
Traveling lets you shoulder the burnings of planning, making decisions, and the day to day stuff, but having someone around to share the consequences makes everything easier. Lol. It’s awfully nice not to have to deal with the unpleasant aspect of being alone if you know you could pass on the job to someone else – someone who’s willing to check the railway map and timetable without throwing up, someone you feel safer with even if things go the other way, and someone who constantly reminds you of your money responsibility. Even more when it’s about sharing wonderful experiences, stunning views, and funny stories! Getting to do them with a person so dear to you means a whole lot more.

3. It’s interesting to rediscover each other, all over again.
It’s nothing new that traveling will push us out of our comfort zones. It makes aspects of our personalities to surface – most of it we’re not even familiar with. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with Jerrell but I know traveling will always open new grounds to growth and re-discovery. I’ve seen how he reacts to my choices, frustrations, and sudden changes of plans, how supportive he is when I’m carrying too much heavy things during a long walk, and how grumpy he gets when I make it hard for him to wake me up and get me out of bed early in the morning. There will be times when we'd have to fight for our differences but I appreciate how much he’s willing to compromise and make things work.

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